Re: The Writing Life #2 by poetandknowit	26-Sep-02/2:31 AM
Highly comic and no doubt true.
Re: Velvetted by knickytoy	26-Sep-02/2:16 AM
This is both funny and sexy. Love it. I'm looking forward to your poem about cheese.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	26-Sep-02/1:08 AM
Thanks very much. I did eventually get to your comment - I have no idea how the topic of parentage got raised. But then I suppose the poem does have a father in it.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/9:01 AM
Well my friends, I must be off. There's a train strike today so it's gonna be a 5 mile walk home, so I'd better get going. Till tomorrow, mes amis.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/9:00 AM
I still do.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:56 AM
Although one never watches at the urinal as a full-grown man. That leads to trouble.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:50 AM
Well I'm 28, so youngish. I've been working full-time and studying part-time for the last five years. Yep, it's English - the poetry of Edward Thomas. Yours?
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:47 AM
I think I've seen film of that Bly chap in the woods. There always appears to be crying and howling as well. I get enough of that at home, thanks very much.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:45 AM
Hey, go steady on the PhD, I've only just got it and it's still shiny and new! I haven't time to get disillusioned yet.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:43 AM
Which brings me right back to where I started! But you know that old thing about keeping your enemies closer than your friends? I sort of feel that way about fears - they define you as much as your loves. They define your boundaries. I hate them at the same time as loving the tensions they throw up. Now is that weird?
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:38 AM
This is just the kind of primal stuff that makes me uncomfortable. But rather the breast than the hunt any day.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:29 AM
Christ that's absolutely right. My respect for Kurt is evermore increased. That's exactly it.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:28 AM
Fear of abandonment definitely. Heading into woods, definitely. But no drum banging. It's not dignified.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:25 AM
My hat is a wise wise garment.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:23 AM
Good for him. I only get emotional in the dark. And you know i think tesosterone has a lot to do with it. The double-edged sword of masculinity.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:14 AM
It's as if, at the last minute, you want to turn away from the great fascinating unknown thing in case it comes up and bites you. I don't know about any of this. I might be talking out of my hat.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:12 AM
I'm no psychologist but... I wonder if it's bred into us. I sometimes wonder if it's being English as well, we seem particularly bad at that sort of thing.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:09 AM
Maybe there is a preconception about masculinity, but I think it's also something more fundamental. Perhaps men still feel they're supposed to be active providers etc. and so shouldn't think about their innermost motives and desires, a sort of tyranny of action and pragmatism. Because there's a lot of comfort in action. Keep on acting and you never have to think.
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:04 AM
Men seem to have a fear of the self. A lot do, anyway. Neither Jung nor Freud can explain this!
Re: a comment on Noblesse Oblige by Christof	25-Sep-02/8:02 AM
Men do seem to have some fear of the self. Not even Freud or jung have really explained why.