Me and my friends make up words all the time; it's a geek-culture tradition (see
http://www.tuxedo.org/jargon/). As for stereotypes- yes, these particular gay men reinforced the stereotype because they were so noticeably effeminate. But you probably don't notice the hundreds of gay men you see otherwise who -don't- fit the stereotype, because they look and act like every other man. The squeaky wheel gets noticed, and all.