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Labeled Retarded (Free verse) by Beyond_Dreams

I worked in a house with handicapped individuals. It wasn't so much that they were wheelchair bound but labeled; retarded. I listened to them sing to me when I would make their breakfast for the day. and they spoke to me like I was their friend. labeled; retarded One of the ladies was in her late 40's; with hair that never wanted to stay down, she would make Alfalfa laugh. labeled; retarded She would sit in her chair and pet her precious kitten Daisy-Mae she called her. While off in the kitchen a fight broke out, call it a "cat fight" labeled; retarded One to their bedroom while the others painted tulips so I could hang them on the refrigerator. We would sit down and write together. labeled; retarded Then when all the chores were done and breakfast was finally finished they got into the van and I took them to school. labeled; retarded They would all wave and tell me how much they love me, I returned the gesture and smiled while driving off back to their home. And those ladies who are as average as you annd I, are labeled retarded.

Goad 27-Mar-05/2:24 PM
Your premise is: these people are capable and worthy of love and friendship, therefore they are not retarded.

Think about the presupposition of your premise. The presupposition of your premise is that retarded people AREN'T capable and worthy of love, affection, and friendship. This is bullshit.

(in case you don't follow the logic: let R represent "retarded". let C represent "capable and worthy of love and friendship". You say "C implies ~R":

C -> ~R
~C | ~R
~R | ~C
R -> ~C
C -> ~R |- R -> ~C

Q.E.D. your poem presupposes that retarded people are not capable and worthy of love and friendship.

But retarded people CAN love and ARE worthy of being loved. Therefore the premise of your pome is incorrect.

Retarded people are labeled retarded because they are retarded. To treat them like average people -- ie, to hold them to the same standards of behaviour as ordinary people -- would be cruel and unjust.

If you had a roommate who, intellectually & developmentally, was an average adult and had all the capabilities of an average adult, but behaved like a retarded person, you would kick them the fuck out. That would not be considered cruel. To demand that a retarded person be held to the same standards of social behaviour would be cruel, and unreasonable.

That is the exact meaning of the label retarded: "person who through no fault of their own but because of genetic or developmental or trauma-caused anomalies is not capable of the full range of responsibilities and behaviours as the average person of their age, and should therefore not be held to the same standards for social behaviour".

Attempting to tell society at large that we ought not to label an obvious condition is foolish and misguided, and if actually implemented would result in much more harm than good to the people you are trying to benefit. Your poem shows no evidence of your having thought this through. It contains some lovely imagery of your interactions with the people you worked with, spoiled by preaching about your emotional reaction to the stigma associated with the label. Instead of being, as it could be, an affirmation of the triumph of innate humanity over disability, it comes off as scolding the reader (or perhaps trying to buddy up to the reader in mutual scolding of "everybody else who does the labelling")

But there are virtually no labels for identifying groupings of people that do not have a stigma in at least some other groupings of people. Therefore, your demand that this particular label be outlawed is inane.

I believe this is what hendrimike means, although he is rather more succinct than I.




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